Be Careful What You Claim
Last month’s newsletter generated emails from people wanting to know more about how to allow grief to have it’s way with them and people wanting to blame others for how they were feeling. Which got me thinking that it might be useful to offer some...
A New Year and More on Loss
It’s that time of year in New England when building a fire in the wood stove is part of my daily morning routine. The warmth of a wood stove fire is the best and helps mitigate the grey and cold that are hallmarks of New England winters. Many of...
Do You Have A Case Of “The Beiges”?
I am working with a client in his 40’s who’s wondering how he found himself in the marriage that almost killed him. Literally. He prides himself on being a good person, a nice guy, and his ex is clearly mentally challenged. He is thoughtful,...
Family Patterns Of Pain
This past weekend included a day we set aside to honor mothers and upcoming is a day for honoring fathers. I know from my work-and my own life-how such days can be a mixed bag or even painful reminders of expectations not met. Or what I call “the...
Be An Advocate For Yourself
Many of the people I work with are dealing with lawyers, be it for engaging a divorce or dealing with what I call post-divorce cleanup. One of the most common complaints I hear from my clients working with a lawyer is how the lawyer is not advocating for them.
What have you placed your faith in?
Faith is a powerful energy and what you have faith in will have power in your life. What you have faith in is instrumental to what you feel is possible for yourself in life and love. If you have faith you are worthy of love, you will not tolerate consistent bad behavior from those you love. And if you have faith in your not being worthy of love, you will tolerate such behavior.
Boundaries Are Not Optional For Happiness in Love and Life
People are often curious how I went from being an architect to being a mediator to now helping people feel empowered to make things in their life better. I tell them that it’s been an evolution from creating spaces for people to helping people create space for themselves in their life. And, doing so begins with creating boundaries that reflect one’s worth and what they are seeking in life and love.
I’m Not A Fan Of You Being So Nice
One of the common threads of the smart, capable people I work with is a childhood in which a parent would threaten or withhold love for having the child behave as the parent wanted. No, these are not childhoods where deprivation or poverty was present; quite the opposite.