Last newsletter I wrote about how grit is having your wounds not define you nor limit what you think is possible for you in life. And that learning to hear the whisper of your inner wisdom and guidance is essential for a life happy and fulfilling. Essential for becoming the authority of your life and learning to be true to yourself instead of people pleasing and living what other people tell you which is true for them and not so much you.
As a mediator, I learned that people who know what is true for them are more likely to realize what they want in life, even when life challenges them. Mediation is helping people create better between them and another and I use my mediation skills when helping people realize better outcomes between themself and life. When a person knows what is true for themself, and makes their choices aligned with such, they have a much better chance of realizing what they seek in life. For what I term “being true to yourself”, or as some term it “being authentic”, evolves into the person becoming the authority for how to realize what they seek in life.
So what helps you know what is true for you so as to live your dreams for life? The answer is pretty elegant and it is already and always with you; it’s the wisdom and guidance already living within you/r body. Learning to hear and then decipher the wisdom and guidance already within you does require updating your beliefs as to your worth and your power. It’s always wise to update the beliefs you formed as a child, for such beliefs are rooted in not having much power. Enjoying life as adult requires engaging your power for creating what you seek in life. And unlike one’s mind, our body never lies; simply we need to learn it’s language and engage it’s wisdom within us.
You don’t get power back from others as much as you take up your courage and commit to action with your power. Want a better relationship? Learn what is true for you so as to have a relationship that honors you and what is important to you. Notice I did not call out how the other person needs to be different; what you seek in life begins with engaging yourself first. Half of the relationship work I do involves working with only one person in the relationship. After working with me solo for some time about their marriage or their committed relationship, they come to their sessions excited about how things are getting better in their relationship. Being clear about and connected with what is true for them, taking responsibility for what they want, and not making the other person wrong (for not being a mind reader, for example), goes a long way towards creating a better relationship.
Power begins inside and never has this been more true as authority shifts from outside-over us to inside-with others . While what we grew up counting on for guidance and validation may be losing power, this vacuum of power invites you to step into more of your own authority for living your life. Not in isolation, but in community, for that is how we can best practice what is true for us and exercising the contemporary power of relationship. This begins with the relationship we have with both our inner and our outer worlds. Which brings us full circle to how important it is to know what is true for you and how to engage your personal GPS within you for a life happy and fulfilled.
When you know what is true for you from within yourself, this clarity and conviction eases the process of making what you seek in life happen. Instead of expecting others to make you happy, you delight in your relationships with others, not holding them hostage as the source of your unhappiness. What you seek to experience in your life, you become confident that you have the clarity and courage for making that so. Does this mean you live in magical thinking land? No, it is through tangible and focused actions you exercise your power for creating what is true for you in life. With your grit, with life’s grace, and with gratitude for your powers inside and out.
Curious how to begin to realize the power within yourself? Sign up for one of my no-cost Clarity Sessions and we’ll look at what you’d like to make different and how you can begin a relationship with the wisdom and guidance already within you.